A year or so after I started Swing dancing, I had a conversation with one of my dance role models about how far we each wanted to take our dancing. Her attitude astounded me.
"I'll probably give it up before too long," she said.
"Why?" I asked.
"Well, I've gotten pretty good. I've won some competitions. I'm probably not going to get much better. So, why bother?"
I think my face was pretty much like this:
I mean, how could anyone possibly NOT want to keep getting better? But, at the time, I couldn't really explain
why I felt that way. It would be several years before a different conversation with a different role model brought the reason to light.
It was Sunflower Swing 2011, and I was up late talking to one of the instructors. I'd been Swing dancing for almost 3 years. I'd spent those years throwing myself into as many classes, driving to as many events, and taking as many private lessons as I possibly could. I was, by that time, a WSDS board member and instructor. I had developed a deep sense of commitment to our local community, but that wasn't what kept me going. As the instructor and I discussed this, he practically took the words right out of my mouth:
"You can tell yourself 'I'm happy with where I am, I don't NEED to get better,' and I think we all go through those phases. But I dance for self-expression, to show the world who I am. And, regardless of competing and winning and getting famous, why WOULDN'T I want to be better at that? Why WOULDN'T I want to express myself MORE accurately?"
And that, folks, is why I won't ever stop trying to become a better dancer. The process of pinpointing that reason has been very helpful to me as a dancer and as an individual, and I highly recommend that you ask yourself "Why am I doing this?" sometimes. The answer can help you sort out your priorities, and have the kind of dance life that makes you the happiest.
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Chelsea Rothschild
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